The sight of a freshly painted pedicure; the smell of seriously sweaty soles after an afternoon run; the feel of a smooth dancer’s arch on your hand; all these sensations may fill you with a sense of deep desire and imagination. You may have enjoyed these fantasies and personal enjoyments for years. Now, you have a partner, one with whom you feel you could share and enjoy this fancy fetish and explore the range of possibilities and sensations, but…how?

Here are some simple, not-so-intimidating steps to admit that you, ahem, have a foot fetish.

Step 1: Set the Stage

You wouldn’t just blurt out on a first date “I like anal!” Right? I mean, maybe you would, but that might not work for all women. Just sayin’. So, to set up your sweetheart for the right type of response to your special desires, you want to warm her up to it, just like you would anything else in the bedroom. Ideally, you’d like to have a sexual experience with your woman first before you decide to give them juicy details on what really makes you tick. So cozy up, get comfortable and fool around a bit.

Step 2: Feel Some Foot

Your partner has let you touch her body. Tits? Yes. Ass? Amazing. Now, it shouldn’t be so hard to get those frisky hands a little farther south to those adorable little soles that are peeking out from the couch. Try massaging her feet. Anyone who has ever had to stand on their feet for work will absolutely appreciate a warm, gentle foot massage!

Step 3: Gage Her Reaction

Is she moaning or cooing from the feeling of you massaging her sweet little soles? Does she have a smile on her face? Try advancing your type of touch to something a little more seductive. Maybe try licking or suckig her toes a bit and see how she reacts to that type of stimulation. You may be pleasantly surprised by her reaction.

Step 4: Compliment Her Feet

While they’re right in front of you, you have the perfect opportunity to plant a little kiss on her feet and tell her just how beautiful they are. This creates the perfect segue into the next segment of finally admitting that you love feet.

Step 5: Let It All Hang Out

You’ve gotten your partner naked. She’s letting you kiss her feet. She should be in a good mood. It’s the right time to let it all hang out and admit that you have a thing for sexy feet. Remember when Hugh Grant got caught with that hooker when he was dating Elizabeth Hurley, one of the most beautiful women in the world? This is easier than that. He did tons of interviews with an “aw shucks, me?” attitude and the world (and Elizabeth Hurley) fell back in love with him. You can do this. Use a little Hugh Grant humility and bumbling cuteness to admit, that, um, well, “I have a thing for feet. I really like them. I really like yours. Some might call that a foot fetish. How do you feel about that? Would you mind if I celebrated and worshipped your feet?”

Any woman worth her salt should jump up and down with joy for the fact that she is going to be worshipped like the goddess that she is. How lucky for her! If she’s not into it or reacts poorly, maybe she’s not the woman for you. If you can live with someone who doesn’t want to engage in your foot fetish fantasies, perhaps, with time, she can cozy up to the idea and see that it’s not so strange or unusual after all. She wears high heels doesn’t she? She gets pedicures, right? She might even learn to like feet herself. Take your time….and explore the options. In the meantime, start practicing your foot massage skills because that is a vital part of the early steps!

Good luck!